The Laws of Inaction..do something or rot

One of the cornerstones of reaching midlife is a nagging need to reinvent oneself. We no longer want to be "John's wife" or "Dustin's mom". ..we want desperately to find out who we are. And so we search. I know I did. Boy did I ever! And the search field is (to use an overworked word) GINORMOUS.

These searches are commonly referred to as "journeys" (a word I have personally come to loathe). We are inspired, often to the point of nausea, by Oprah, television features and magazine articles about midlife or later-life women who threw it all away ("it" often means a financially lucrative career) to pursue a dream. In the articles and TV shows these women always succeed. If you read or see enough of these inspirational stories one of two things will happen. You WILL be inspired to chase your dream or you will feel like a bigger loser because you aren't sure what your dream is. I fall into the latter category.

But to not try something, to not dig deeply into your psyche, to remain stuck in your old life is not good. It's safe, but not good. So many of us buy a journey ticket and jump on the train.
Some of us identify the right place to get off. Some of us get off at many stations and can't find a cab, so we jump back on and ride to the next station. It's not the stuff magazine articles are made of...but in my exploration of women's midlife journeys, it is the more common experience. So if you're still riding the train searching for Inspiration, USA or Dreamville, USA this blog is for you. Don't despair, fellow pilgrim. You're in good company.

Over the past years I have immersed myself in any number of spiritual, educational and self-help programs. Each time I had high hopes. But somehow...hmmm..I musta done something wrong, or without proper intention or without sincerity because I haven't found what I was looking for.....probably because I had (and still have) no idea what I was looking for. So I'm going to give you a peek at my "journey" (the last time I will use this word, I promise),share some wisdom, life observations, maybe offer some pointers I have picked up along the way. Welcome Aboard!!.